SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH Remember that 90s movie Rookie of the Year? If not, it’s worth a rewatch. Here’s the gist: 12-year-old Henry is an average baseball player until he breaks his arm. When it heals, something miraculous happens: he suddenly has a lightning-fast pitching arm. The Cubs recruit him, and with his new skill (plus his quick wit and humor), he helps them win their division and head to the World Series. I often say that healing heartbreak is a lot like healing a broken arm....
20 days ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH I remember going to lunch with a new friend 9 months after a breakup and I was still talking about how great he was and how great the relationship was for a little while. And she did what most female friends do. She talked about how maybe things would change. Maybe he’ll realize what he’s missing and he’ll come back. “It sounds like you had something really special,” she said to me. And since she was fifteen years older and happily married for 20 years, I thought...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH I remember a big fight I had with my ex that led to our breakup. I vaguely remember what the fight was about. What I can clearly remember was feeling completely out of my body. I was so incredibly anxious it was like I vibrated out of my body. All I had was a swirling of thoughts that were on an endless loop that kept me up all night. And the next day, I was a total mess when I met up with a friend to catch up. She spent the whole time helping me to calm down...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH I was the girl that thought getting my ex back was the solution. So when new clients come to me and tell me that’s their deepest desire, I really feel and understand this. My breakups were brutal. Not because of the conversation or how it went down, but because of how I felt afterwards. I made myself miserable. I was crying so much I was nauseated. I would drink a second or third glass of wine with dinner just so I could get to sleep at night. Or I cried myself to...
2 months ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why does this keep happening to me?” It’s because it’s not done teaching you yet. Pain can be your greatest teacher, if you’re ready to pass the course. Here’s how to break the pattern: Step 1: Get curious about your past and look for patterns in dynamics, not specifics. You’re probably not dating the same exact kind of person, but the relationship dynamic probably feels familiar. I fell for: A guy that wanted to date me but not...
3 months ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH "How do I get back to being myself again?" That’s how my client started our first call. From the outside, his life looked great. He had a fulfilling job where he was respected and appreciated, hobbies he genuinely enjoyed, and a solid circle of friends. But inside, he felt… empty. The breakup wasn’t just with his ex, it felt like he’d broken up with himself. He didn’t know who he was anymore. Breakups can leave you feeling like a house stripped down to the...
3 months ago • 1 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH & ARTIST 8 months ago I thought I was broken. Literally. I had so much pain in my body, I thought maybe my age was catching up on all the activity I did in my younger years. And I believed that thought for longer than I like to admit. I stopped working out. Even running hurt my hips so I stopped running. This was really hard because I kept comparing myself to a past version of myself. The one who was a personal trainer, a marathoner, a person who moved as a part...
3 months ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES BREAKUP COACH We're all messes. But social media only showcase people's highlight reels. People post their best moments, but you never get to see the real story. Here's my real story and how I turned my mess into a beautiful mess. About a year ago, I quit my job. It was a great job, and I was kicking ass. But I was working for someone else, and I wanted to build something of my own. My life coaching business was doing really well—I had a full roster of clients and couldn’t take...
4 months ago • 2 min read
SARAH CURNOLES LIFE COACH A lot of people have been talking to me recently about setbacks and backslides they’ve been having. So I wanted to share my coaching that I gave them. People are noticing they’re going back to old ways of being. Whether that’s missing their ex and wanting to call them, feeling hopeless and purposeless, or eating, drinking, or doing anything to numb all their feelings. Here’s the coaching I gave to them: Nothing is wrong. You’re experiencing the “one step back” part...
4 months ago • 2 min read