I blame Sex and the City.

It was burned in my brain: Charlotte telling Carrie it takes half the amount of time you’re with someone to get over them.

And then Carrie and Big having that back and forth dance of breaking up and getting back together before finally realizing they were meant to be and they lived happily ever after (or whatever…).

I know it kept me stuck on my ex for a lot longer than I needed to because it normalized this behavior.

I thought if I still missed him badly after a few months of trying to get over him, it meant we were meant to be. And I just needed to get him back in order to stop feeling so bad.

Now I know I was really wrong.

I was giving all my power away.

I was saying “I can’t feel good unless I get my ex back.”

And it made logical sense.

I felt good with my ex. I’m no longer with my ex and I feel terrible. Therefore, I need my ex to feel good.

Right?

Not quite.

There was an error in my thinking. It was assuming that feeling good came from my ex.

Feeling good doesn’t come from the other person.

It actually comes from you.

This is where most people get confused. You spend your whole life thinking that the answers are our there - having a good job, enjoying good weather, having the right people in your life - but we actually have a lot more influence over the happiness in ourselves.

But hardly anyone teaches you how to get there.

And no one teaches you how to get out of the depths of heartbreak and into a place where you start feeling good again.

What you need is:

• A process to guide you out of healing and into thriving
• The skills and tools specifically for navigating detaching from your ex and starting a new chapter
• Support to make success is inevitable

I know this works because it's what I've provided for all my clients who have their own success stories to share.

Healing doesn't happen by accident. It doesn't happen because time passes.

Healing happens when you choose to do it on purpose. And you not only get over your ex, but you become the version of you that you've always wanted to be.

If this resonates for you, I want to make sure you’re following me on Instagram. Starting on Monday for the next 30 days, I’ll be sharing tips that really work to help you get over your breakup.

And I will be announcing something new very soon and I can’t wait to share it with you!

Until then, let's keep chatting on Instagram and you can tell me your favorite tip!

xo,

Sarah

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