Did you watch the limited series “Should I Marry a Murderer” on Netflix?

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The story follows a woman who rapidly falls in love with a man, only to find out that he murdered someone years before they met.

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You might be asking yourself “WHY DIDN’T SHE LEAVE?! Who in their right mind stays after they find out they’re in love with a murderer?!?!”

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I won’t spoil the show if you haven't watched, but they do an excellent job answering that exact question.

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Humans don’t act in logical ways. I speak to people every single day who ask themselves “why did I stay so long? I saw the red flags and I stayed anyway.”

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It’s not a logic problem.

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It’s your attachment to the person and the relationship PLUS a fear of stepping into the unknown.

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All humans need connection. All humans fear change.

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We hate losing a sure-thing to meet our need for connection.

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You can know something is right for you and still be scared to step into the unknown.

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People change because they believe it will be better than if they stay the same.

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Usually people wait until they’re in soooooo much pain in their current situation that they can’t stay a moment longer.

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And that’s what happened to the woman in the Netflix story. She said she was living some of the darkest and lowest days of her life. Scared for her life. Going on drug and alcohol binges to numb the pain she was in. Having manic episodes and even being put in jail once.

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You don’t have to hit rock bottom before you change.

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You just have to want to change. You just have to be tired enough of waiting for things to change.

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I was talking to a new coaching client the other day who said, “I’ve been wanting to do this for a long time. I feel like I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.”

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Most people say they wish they started coaching sooner because they would have started to feel better sooner.

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If you’re tired of waiting to feel better and you want an actual plan for a process with support, let’s talk. Schedule a free no-pressure consultation call with me where I will help you see the blocks keeping you stuck and I’ll map your path forward. You can decide if coaching is the right next step for you. Schedule time with me here.​

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You deserve better than waiting until you're at your lowest point to get the guidance to get out of heartbreak.

xo,

Sarah

What I’ve been up to (other than watching murder shows):​ ​ Listen to my interview with stylist Nadine Naue. She talks about how to make style foundational for your transformation after a breakup. Listen to Breakup Pep Talks

I was interviewed on Awakening Her podcast with Talia Joy as a part of her Transformation Summit. This conversation was MAJOR.

This conversation is all about the alchemy of heartbreak — how to take grief, loss, and emotional pain and transform it into fuel for a new identity, a new life, and a deeper connection to yourself.

Listen to Awakening Her