There I was after another breakup. Unable to focus on a thing that my friend was saying over our third class of Cabernet. (ok, maybe the cabernet wasn't helping my focus)

All I could think of was how much pain I was in from my last breakup. I wanted to talk about what a jerk he was. How much I was still thinking about him. I just wanted to cry.

But a nagging part of me knew that one or both of these things were also true:

1. My friend was sick and tired of listening to me.
2. She was going to give me unhelpful advice to get back on the dating apps and get over it already.

So I was stuck suffering on the inside, drowning my racing thoughts in my red wine, trying to push it all down.

And after a night of trying to push my thoughts and feelings away, they popped up faster than a beach ball you've been holding under the water. I found myself eating the contents of my freezer, heating up frozen chicken nuggets and eating ice cream right from the container.

Let's just say waking up the next morning wasn't pretty.

I didn't know what to do. I didn't know how to handle everything that I was feeling and thinking.

And neither did my friend.

Your friends aren't trained to know how to handle this. It's actually NOT intuitive to know how to show up for someone you love when they are suffering in pain. Your friends are incompetent.

Not because they don't love you. Not because they're not smart or incapable.

They just don't know how.

When I started talking to a coach, I found I had someone I could be brutally honest and raw with. I could unleash all the parts of me that I thought were unlovable. They didn't know my ex or my friends, and there was no conflict of interest. No bias.

Just someone trained to listen and offer tools to handle what I was going through.

If you've been here an received my Breakup Guide or attended Over Your Ex in a Weekend, you know the power of having a system and support.

Maybe you even had a passing thought that you might like to work with me.

And immediately shut down that thought. maybe you told yourself, "I wouldn't be able to afford it." Or, "It'll take too much time." Or "I'm afraid to make a commitment right now. I can barely think stright."

I totally get it. Which is why I treat each and every person as an individual. I create a custom plan just for you.

And if you're worried about a long term commitment, it taking too much time, or costing too much, what if we explored that together? Maybe we start with just a month.

But unless you raise your hand and schedule the conversation, nothing changes.

I've been there, when you feel powerless and hopeless. I wish someone had reached out to me during that time.

So this is me reaching out to you. You don't have to go through this time alone. You can get support that feels good and helps you feeling better fast.

So you can go back to splitting an app with your friend and laughing over the most recent ridiculous thing her boss did. Instead of stifling back tears in you glass of Cab.

Ready to discuss what it's like to work with a coach? I'm here for you. Book a free consultation with me where I'll ask you questions to understand your situation and then explain what coaching is like. So you can make an empowered decision about what's right for you.

Let's have a conversation: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=13002720&appointmentType=2184073​

No pressure. Just a coach here for you if you want experienced support and guidance.

xo,

Sarah