There’s something I’ve been avoiding for a long time. And I decided it’s time to confront my avoidance and my fear and just do it.

They say you’re your own worst critic, which I think can be true.

But I also think you can be really good at hiding from yourself too.

You stay in the same patterns in your life. Maybe that looks like you keep dating the same kind of person over and over. (me, personally? I had a thing for the unavailable, hot, passionate type of guy.) Or you keep avoiding that thing you know will make a big difference in your life whether it’s dry January or putting yourself back out there on the apps.

And it’s not hurting anyone. It’s comfortable.

But in the back of your head, there is a nagging voice. A voice that knows better. That knows you could be doing a bit more and this is your next big personal edge. The difference between thinking about doing crow pose to actually doing it.

I get it. You’re afraid if you commit to it and try that you’re going to fail and fall on your face (literally, if you’re trying crow pose). You’re afraid of embarrassment of failing. Or worse, what will you actually do if you succeed?

Like Marianne Williamson said, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."

So you never try. And you keep going with your nice life. Even though once in a while you get an annoying itch and things never seem to change.

Oprah shared an idea on her podcast that has stuck with me since I heard it. She said that we each have the lessons we are meant to learn in this lifetime. And at first those lessons show up as a whisper. Like a pebble at your window. And if you ignore it, the next time it tries to get your attention, it’s a rock thrown at you. And if you still ignore it, you get a boulder.

Most of us wait to change until we get the boulder. These are the big moments: Your lover leaves. You get fired. You get the health diagnosis and you know there’s no going back.

How do we start to change before we have the boulder size moments?

We step into our zone of discomfort on purpose.

That thing you’re avoiding? It holds the lesson you need to learn in order to grow.

How do I know this?

Because I do it all the time with myself.

I am pretty skilled at keeping a blind eye towards those things that scare me. But I’m learning to listen to them sooner and follow my fears.

I’m not sure what I will learn, but the act of committing to do something that I’m scared of is teaching me how powerful it is to show up for myself. And that’s HUGE.

I’m speaking to myself with kindness and compassion instead of criticism.

I’m becoming the person who does what says and walks her talk.

I’m learning that my fear is just a front and I really don’t have anything to be scared of in the first place.

I want to invite you to follow along with me. I’m going to go live every day for 30 days in a row. 🫣 I’ll be giving my top tips for getting over a breakup so that you can heal stronger, faster, and better. But not in a way that will burn you out. In a completely holistic, embodied approach.

To top it off, part of those 30 days will be spent road tripping across the US as I drive from Baltimore, MD to Tacoma, WA. AND I’m taking the long route through the south to avoid as much possible snowy weather as possible.

You can follow along on Instagram where I’ll be posting ALL the videos: https://www.instagram.com/sarahcurnoles/​

You can comment, ask me questions that you want answered, or suggest fun road trip pit stops!

I’m starting 2026 with some bold action to step out of my comfort zone in a way that feels like a stretch that is completely doable (even if it feels very scary).

Where are you feeling a nudge to step out of your comfort zone?

Here's to 2026, I'm right there beside you as we step into the newness and embrace the fear with open arms.

With love,

Sarah
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