I remember going to lunch with a new friend 9 months after a breakup and I was still talking about how great he was and how great the relationship was for a little while.
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And she did what most female friends do. She talked about how maybe things would change. Maybe he’ll realize what he’s missing and he’ll come back.
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“It sounds like you had something really special,” she said to me. And since she was fifteen years older and happily married for 20 years, I thought she must be right.
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I held onto hope. I kept pining after the one who got away. I went on dates and compared those guys to my ex. I went on long walks and cried about how we weren’t together and how unfair it was that so many other people could be happy.
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I wish I knew exactly how much time I spent thinking about that relationship. Or how much I cried over the end of our relationship. Or fantasized about us getting back together.
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All that time that I spent obsessed over a past relationship kept me stuck in the past.
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I was so distracted thinking about him that I didn’t think about how much I wasn’t satisfied by my day job.
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I went on so many dates with great guys that could have been potential romantic partners but I couldn’t see it.
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You stay stuck when you stay focused on the past.
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You can’t move forward if you’re always facing backwards.
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It took me a long, long time (and a lot of tears and heartache) to learn that the key to getting over your ex is learning how to detach from the relationship.
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You spent so long attached to your ex, in order to restore your peace of mind you need to learn how to detach.
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When you learn how to detach, you get out of suffering faster. You stop checking their social media, wondering what they’re doing and who they’re with. You’re able to focus at work.
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You feel free.
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Detaching gives you control over your life again.
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You can make a decision.
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Keep staying stuck. And lose track of the amount of time you spend reminiscing about your ex and you have no idea how many opportunities you lose or possible romantic partners.
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Or...
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Choose to detach from your past relationship so you can have a clean slate again and you can move forward confidently.
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If you want to choose option 2, I would love to take you through my process to help make this not only possible but inevitable for you.
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Book a free consultation call and I’ll share my process to help you. Start your new future by scheduling a consultation call here.

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