Are You Living on a Prayer? Or Living on a Dare?


SARAH CURNOLES

BREAKUP COACH

Hey there Reader

Picture me at a slumber party with 10 other girls. I’m wearing my glasses and my first pair of pajamas that didn’t have cartoons on them. Our New Kids on the Block sleeping bags are rolled out. I’m nervous about sleeping away from home but I feel like this is the moment I make some really good friends.

The unspoken rules of slumber party were clear:

1. Don’t be the first to fall asleep or your bra was going in the freezer.

2. Make sure the boy you had a crush on was different from the boy the other people liked.

3. And never, ever sit out of Truth or Dare.

But the problem was I HATED Truth or Dare. I was so scared everyone would figure out what a wimp I was, and I’d no longer be “cool.” I just wanted everyone to like me.

I always picked Truth because between it seemed safer to tell something about myself than to have to DO something.

I told my most embarrassing story and everyone laughed. I told who I had a secret crush on and was too scared to pass him a note that said “Do you like me? Check yes or no.”

I preferred Truth because it seemed safer. I was so scared I’d have to break a rule or do something wild.

I wanted to be one of the girls who didn’t care about those things. They seemed so cool.

Fast forward into adulthood.

No one is hosting a slumber party anymore (but maybe we should?!) and no one is playing Truth or Dare like we used to.

Instead, we get Adulting. Every choice in life feels like a Truth or Dare. What will you do?

And it turns out the choices you make and the actions you take can have a profound effect on the life you live.

And I find the bolder I am with what I do, the more I figure out what I want in life. The more ALIVE and FREE I feel.

So I’m doing something I’ve never done before. I’m hosting a big online game of Truth or Dare. Except it’s ALL Dares.

Because I want to help as many people as possible have fun with creating a life they want.

These dares won’t be like what we had in slumber parties. No one is running around with their underwear on the outside of your clothes, and no one has to prank call the meanest teacher in school.

These dares are specifically crafted around helping you to move on from your last relationship and create a life you love.

These are going to be SO. MUCH. FUN.

We’re going to get back in touch with the version of ourselves who loves to play.

We officially start on April 16, and we’ll play for a week.

I’ll send you a dare a day for 7 days.

You complete the dare and get entered to win prizes!

If you want to sign up, join me here: https://sarahcurnoles.com/dare

You in? Let's play.

I'll see you in the game.

xo,

Sarah

PS. TLDR: Want to get back to being the wild and free version of you before you twisted into the pretzel of who you thought you had to be? I'm leading an internet-wide game of Truth or Dare to help you get back to her. Sign up to play (and win prizes!): https://sarahcurnoles.com/dare

I talk more about WHY playing a game like this is actually the best thing you can do for your healing in this week's podcast episode. You can listen here:

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