Hi there Reader,
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A client told me she was so tired of being the Fixer in her family. People came to her with all their problems and expected her to solve it. She was smart and resourceful and loved being needed.
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But she needed her family to be there for her, too, and they weren’t reciprocating. She was exhausted.
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She wanted to be really seen, heard, and known by her family. She wanted to set some boundaries so she could reclaim a sense of peace in her life. And she wanted to be treated like an equal instead of being the one who “always has it all together.”

She felt like her life wasn't as valuable as the rest of her family unless she was solving their problems. She couldn't be loved for who she was, she always had to be earning it.

It wasn't a satisfying way to have a relationship with the people who were supposed to love her the most.

I knew to help her get what she wanted, the change wasn't going to come from them. It was going to come from something that was in her control.
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I shared the most powerful coaching I ever received: We can’t control what other people do.

But we can control our thoughts, feelings, and reactions to what they do.

In our coaching, we worked on creating new thoughts, feelings, and reactions and practiced them over and over until she felt confident enough to try it with her family. Because when we start choosing different thoughts and reactions to our family's behavior, they start reacting differently to us. We worked on her beliefs about her family and what was possible.
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When she put it into practice with her family, it didn’t go perfectly. She didn’t say the “perfect” line she came up with when we were workshopping it. But she could tap into her heart and speak honestly. She expressed herself.

She could finally be seen and heard.

She eventually healed her relationship with her mom enough that she took care of her in her final weeks on Earth. She cherishes that time and has no resentment. She knows that the 180 degree turn in her relationship with her mom is because of the work we did together.

Coaching helps you reclaim relationships that you thought were long gone. You gain memories and important moments that seemed impossible before. Coaching helps you practice becoming the person you always wanted to be.

You begin by having the courage to say “I want to change this relationship dynamic and I’m open to receiving guidance.” I want to help and you can book a free consultation call with me to explore this.

What's one thing you wish you could change in your life? One thing you wish was different.

You don't have to know how. You just have to want something to change.

Coaching can help you make those changes and feel powerful in your life again. I want to invite you to a conversation with me where we talk more about that.