One of the greatest gifts that I’ve received from my life coach was the awareness that I’ve been believing a lie about myself my whole life.

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This lie has impacted my romantic relationships, my work and my paycheck, my relationships with my family and friends, and even how I treat myself. I think it has been keeping happiness and true love and belonging at arm’s length. And it’s kept me stuck in my head, overthinking and over-analyzing my life instead of really living it.

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That lie not only affects me, but I think it is a lie many of us just have operating quietly in the background of our lives. It really hit home how universally crippling this is when I was reading Matthew Perry’s book and he wrote about how he sabotaged his relationship with Julia Roberts.

Let me set the scene. It was the heyday of Friends’ giant success. Julia Roberts was still at the beginning of her journey to become the super star we know and love today. She was asked to be on Friends, and she said only if she can have her storyline be with Chandler. She wanted to be interacting with Matthew Perry, and they ended up dating for a couple of months until Matthew Perry ended it. He wrote, “Dating Julia Roberts had been too much for me. I had been constantly certain that she was going to break up with me. Why would she not? I was not enough; I could never be enough; I was broken, bent, unlovable. So, instead of facing the inevitable agony of losing her, I broke up with the beautiful and brilliant Julia Roberts.”

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Matthew Perry was at the height of his fame and Julia Roberts was asking to be around him, and he was still believing this giant lie.

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What’s the lie that so many of us believe?

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I’m not enough.

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It shows up in such sneaky ways, like rejecting others before they can reject you. Or not asking for the raise or the job promotion, even though you’re doing all the extra work. Or looking at your calendar or bank account and telling yourself you never have enough time or money.

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These are all faces of the lie of not enough.

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When I became aware of how much this story was running my life, I realized how much I’ve missed out on. I saw how I’ve been playing so small trying to fit into a box that no one asked me to get into.

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And I realized I’ve created a lot of stress and pain that was completely optional. Without the lie of “not enough” I could have skipped the stress and gotten right to solving the problem I was facing or just let myself be happy.

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But it’s not as simple as stopping and then everything is magically fixed. There are a few steps involved. I do this work with my clients around how they heal this with their romantic relationships. Other coaches do it with money.

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One coach that I LOVE is Kate Northrup. Last year I did her free 3 day workshop and it changed my relationship with money so that I feel more in control and more at ease (I’m not perfect at this, but I’ve come a long way!).

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I’ve done a lot of programs, and Kate’s approach makes more sense to me and gave me better results than most of what I’ve done. I can’t recommend her highly enough. If you’re looking to heal your relationship with money, you’re in luck! Her free workshop starts on Thursday and you can still save your seat!

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Register here: https://thefreefam.ontraport.net/t?orid=156345&opid=162​

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If you’re willing to do the work in her free class, I promise it will shift how you relate to your money in a powerful way.

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Don’t miss this incredible training starting on Thursday!

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I'll see you there.

xoxo,

Sarah