The power of a good cry

Published 14 days ago • 1 min read

SARAH CURNOLES

BREAKUP COACH

I was coaching a client the other day and she was choking back her tears as she kept talking to explain her situation.

I asked her to pause telling the story, and to give some space to the emotion.

I asked her to let herself cry. To let it happen without words or explanation or apology. Without needing to understand or fix it.

And she let herself cry. She let it all out.

It wasn’t pretty, like most good cries.

You know the kind. The kind that has sobs where you can’t catch your breath, snot coming out of your nose, eyes squinched, puffy, and red.

It lasted about a minute and a half.

And afterwards, it didn’t matter what she looked like. I asked her how she felt and she took a moment to pause and check in with herself. She told me simply, “Better. More clear.”

That feeling of a great cry is like nothing else. And I got curious about why that is.

Crying is actually good for you! Crying helps with pain management, reducing stress hormones, and restoring emotional balance. Emotional tears actually contain toxins and stress hormones that you are releasing by letting yourself cry. It can also release oxytocin, the feel good hormone. Oxytocin can dull the feelings of pain while also giving a sense of calm and well-being.

The research is great. But we almost don’t need it to know that a good cry just feels good.

Let yourself cry.

No need to excuse it or apologize for it.

Because crying is good for you. Transformative.

If you’re looking to transform something awful into a spark that changes your life for the better, I want to invite you to have a conversation with me. In this free consultation call, I’ll listen to you share about your situation and I’ll help you create a clear understanding of the issues and a plan for your next steps.

Book your free call by clicking here.

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