I recently left the apartment I moved into after my last significant relationship ended. I felt really sad when I made that decision. I actually cried about leaving that apartment. In many ways it felt like leaving that relationship that was nice, nothing was wrong, but it no longer was a fit for your life.

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A friend was confused by how sad I was about the move. And I get it. Why was I so upset about an apartment?

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This apartment was my sanctuary. I created the whole thing as my personal cozy corner. It’s where I healed, it’s where I brainstormed so many great ideas for my coaching business, it’s where I helped countless clients, cried hundreds of thousands of tears, laughed until my sides hurt, and learned how to love myself again.

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When I decided to leave that apartment to take another opportunity, I had a lot of feelings.

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In a lot of ways, it felt like leaving a good relationship so that I could move towards something great.

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I doubted my decision endlessly. Was I making a bad decision? Would I regret this someday? What if I never came back to this neighborhood that I loved? What if I never like another apartment this much?

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There were so many things I loved about this apartment. And there were plenty of things I didn’t love. But it’s funny that our brain overlooks those things when we decide to be in love with something.

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Maybe you’re like my friend and you think I’m overreacting about just a place to live. Maybe you get it or you are mentally applying this to other parts of your life. Maybe you weren’t like this about a home, but you were like this about a relationship or a friendship.

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We all get attached to something. And we have irrational emotions about it. It’s completely normal. Give yourself a break for having attachments.

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Then love yourself through the detaching process.