From Broken to Strong


SARAH CURNOLES

BREAKUP COACH & ARTIST

8 months ago I thought I was broken.

Literally. I had so much pain in my body, I thought maybe my age was catching up on all the activity I did in my younger years.

And I believed that thought for longer than I like to admit. I stopped working out. Even running hurt my hips so I stopped running.

This was really hard because I kept comparing myself to a past version of myself. The one who was a personal trainer, a marathoner, a person who moved as a part of who I was. That was my identity.

It knocked me into a situational depression. Who was I if I couldn't move the way I liked?


I decided to try an experiment. What if I dropped my excuses that I didn't have enough time or I can't workout without pain and I just showed up for 15 minutes and did the simplest movements?

I had to drop my ego and every story that sounded like this: "I should be further along." "This shouldn't be so hard." "I should be doing so much more." "I'm such a loser." "I'm doomed and worthless now that my body isn't tight and toned."

I let myself show up for 6 weeks doing just 15 minutes a day 2-3 times a week. This felt like nothing and that I was going too slow. But I told myself:
"I'm doing something and that's better than nothing."
"If this is all I am ever able to do, it's enough."
"I'm going to love my body for what it CAN do, not hate it for what it CAN'T do."

Today I feel like I'm back on track. I did a 20 minute run/walk and a 30 minute strength workout. This was impossible 4 months ago. But with small commitments and mindset shifts, I was able to get back into feeling like myself again.

Yes, this is a story about fitness. But the message is bigger:
When we over-identify with our current struggle, we limit our ability to grow and change.

What if your current challenge is your opportunity to grow in a new way? Let go of ego-stories that are just holding you back and find the small things that you can do with relative ease. Be grateful for what is working, even if it's small. Have a vision of where you want to go and take tiny, consistent steps forward and let go of the pressure that it has to happen right now.

This has a process:

  • Start with the idea of what you want.
  • Plant the seed.
  • Envision it's done.
  • Show up for tiny, consistent steps.
  • Celebrate all along the way and notice your progress.

Consistency is actually really sexy. And so is creating a vision with a plan.

If this resonates for you, I'm inviting you to my Vision Board workshop THIS SUNDAY July 20. There are still spots available and you can purchase tickets here. Create something special for yourself.

it's not too late. You're not broken. You're right where you need to be. Sometimes that rock bottom spot is your invitation to start again.

With love,

Sarah

Want to create your own breakthrough moment 6 months from now? It starts by getting clear on what you want. And that's what I'm teaching on Sunday at this in person Vision Board Workshop.

Bring a friend and you each get $5 off your ticket if you use code BESTIES!

113 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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