I Got Ghosted


SARAH CURNOLES

BREAKUP & DATING COACH

I was ghosted recently and it really pissed me off.


Who did this guy think he was? How rude to not even send a text to say “I’m not feeling it. Best wishes!”


I don’t know why it became so commonplace to ghost people. From what I’m hearing from my community, there is a lot of ghosting going on right now. Maybe it’s because Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and some people don’t want to be in a relationship.



If you find yourself obsessing over the person who ghosted you, there is a good reason. Ghosting is tough because it is like a sentence without an ending. It will drive your mind batty trying to figure out what’s going on. And I can tell you, your mind hates not knowing something. It wants to solve all the problems and close all the loops.


I don’t want you wasting any of your time trying to figure out why they did that.


Even though I know it’s infuriating and disappointing. I have these tools and I even teach them, and I still have to remind myself over and over to practice them. You're not alone if you struggle after being ghosted.


Here's what I want you to know in your bones: It doesn’t matter why they did what they did.


What’s important is how you are going to react and respond to this. This is where your power lives.


If you allow yourself to get overly emotional about this or to spend all your time thinking about that ghost, then you’re giving your power away. Any time you’re giving away your ability to decide your response, you have lost your power.


Your power lies in your ability to decide how you want to respond and what you want to pay attention to.


If you pay attention to the ghost, you’re giving your power to the ghost.


If you decide to refocus on whatever will bring you joy, you’re taking your power back.


You always have the ability to choose your response.


The more you practice self-compassion and self-awareness, the easier this gets. But it’s definitely a practice. Just like showing up for yoga or when you were a kid remembering to brush your teeth.


The more you practice focusing on yourself, the more you’ll let go of the ghost. It will have no power over you.


And if you need a bridge to get from reacting to being ghosted to feeling like you can let it go, check out today’s podcast.


And if this resonates with you and you want to learn to take your power back, I can help. Book your consultation call to learn what’s keeping you stuck on your ghost and how to powerfully move on.

PS. If I could go back and change one thing, I have learned the ultimate response to a ghost. If you want to close the door and be a little sassy, send "👻"

No response needed after that. You have the answer, you closed the door. Done and done.

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