"How do I get back to being myself again?"

That’s how my client started our first call.

From the outside, his life looked great. He had a fulfilling job where he was respected and appreciated, hobbies he genuinely enjoyed, and a solid circle of friends.

But inside, he felt… empty.

The breakup wasn’t just with his ex, it felt like he’d broken up with himself. He didn’t know who he was anymore.

Breakups can leave you feeling like a house stripped down to the studs.
Unrecognizable. Hollow. Cold. Lifeless.
Demo day but with none of the fun.

If you’re in that space where you feel like a stranger to yourself or you fear you’ll never get back to who you were, I want to offer you some hope:

This pain you’re in? This feeling of searching for yourself?

It’s not the end. It’s the beginning.

Here’s why:

Human beings are wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure. So when heartbreak hits, of course you want out. And you can get out. But you have a choice:

1. You can numb it.

OR

1. You can give your pain a purpose.

The first option? You probably already know it well. It’s distraction. Staying busy. Throwing yourself into work, into hobbies, into the next thing.

These are great tools for support but they can’t heal you if you’re only using them to avoid feeling.

If instead you choose to face the pain, meaning that you meet it, learn from it, and grow through it, your life can change.

That’s what my client did.

He realized the version of himself he loved the most was still in there. He wanted to be that driven, motivated, inspired version of himself not just when he was in a relationship, but on his own terms.

He chose to commit to himself.

And that changed everything.

With hope and lots of love,

Sarah